A typical non-litigated divorce using attorneys can cost upwards of $25,000. We have found that going directly to a mediator, like Rave & Roulhac, averages $5,000 - $7,000 for a divorce. Elle Rave's fee for divorce and family mediation is $325 per hour for all hours expended on the client’s account. We do not ask for a retainer fee. We are "pay as you go" with payments due at the end of each session and we also ask for a working credit card on file. Time billed typically includes all sessions, document review, memorandum preparation, correspondence, and telephone calls beyond scheduling issues.

The length of the mediation process depends upon the number of issues to be discussed, the complexity of the relationship of the parties, and how eager couples are to resolve their issues. We work as fast or as slow as the situation requires. Sometimes additional time is needed to gather information or consult with additional advisors. Several weeks to two months is an average length of time. But we work at our client's preferred pace. You can expect a typical mediation session to last 90 minutes.

Mediation is informal, less time-consuming, and less costly financially and emotionally than more formal arbitration and litigation. Mediators guide the parties through a simple process to help keep the conversation constructive and clear. In mediation, each person’s needs/interests are central to the solution. In mediation, the parties keep control over the resolution of their situation and make their own decisions. Mediators do not give advice nor make any decisions for the parties. In mediation, parties can find creative solutions to the issues, rather than the limited options through litigation or arbitration. Mediation is private and voluntary, unlike court actions. Mediation helps parties find closure to situations and move forward in their lives. Mediated agreements provide satisfaction for the parties because they have crafted the solutions themselves. Mediation can repair or strengthen relationships, especially when there are children involved.

Mediation sessions are strictly confidential. The couple directs and decides if additional participants will be allowed to participate and when. Legal or financial advisers and other support people may be included in the sessions provided permission is granted by both parties.

The parties to the mediation control the outcome. The mediator does not give any legal advice, nor do they make any decisions for the parties. The mediator facilitates the mediation process at a pace appropriate to both parties. When the parties have agreement on the issues, the mediator writes a memorandum of understanding which is basically a draft agreement detailing the parenting plan and distribution of assets.

Mediators are trained to remain neutral and act impartially. Mediators are not advocates for any party. Parties should tell the mediator if they feel the process is not neutral.

Fully analyze and understand your issues and needs. Prepare to engage constructively and respectfully to resolve the issues. Be open to hearing possible solutions that meet the needs of everyone. Ask the mediator any questions you have about their role or the process. Begin to collect financial documents such as: W-2s, credit card statements, bank statements, IRA and 401k statements, and the like. Remember, mediation is a safe space. The proceedings are confidential and no decisions are binding until an agreement is signed. For more information, visit our Your Mediation page.